The Anti-Balance Advocate

‘Balance’ they say – ‘balance’ is shoved in my face every second day.

It is ALL about balance… You gotta create balance..

Mate I can’t even create a decent poo let alone create balance.

But what even is balance?

I see these women who have it all together – they advocate balance – these zen masters who have an amazing husband/partner, a beautiful house, they are always being fit and active and cook impressive healthy meals and treat their body like a goddamn temple, treating themselves with a tiny bit of 90% raw chocolate.

They call this balance.

While I’m over here arguing with Matt about who’s turn it is to feed the dogs, avoiding the pile of washing that is starting to look like Everest (as are my dishes) cooking the same chicken and 90 second microwave rice almost every night and trying my absolute hardest not to eat a whole block of chocolate in one sitting…. Resulting in me eating the whole block, feeling disgusting and having my stomach feel like it is going to implode about 20 minutes later.

And these women (although pretty fucking amazing) make me feel shitty about myself.

I start to think…

‘Why don’t I have ….’

‘Maybe I should start….’

‘I need to create balance’

‘Is that what I am suppose to do?’

Then I catch myself in mid thought and react.

My life is pretty fucking ace AND pretty fucking normal, I mean I can’t be the only one with washing coming out of my ears or perhaps washing lodged in my husbands ears hence why I have to ask him 10 times to take the bins out.

We need to begin to realise we ARE NOT failing because we fed our family 90 second microwave rice for dinner rather then quinoa (I had to google how to spell that.)

In real life balance is a load of crap.

I’m sure people create it – I’m sure it probably feels good for the week they implement it but you know what gets in the way?


And what I’ve found is the more you focus on what you DON’T have and what you are NOT doing the more pressure you put on yourself, the more stressed you get, the more weight you gain, the more sleep you loose, the more motivation plummets, the more you feel like an absolute failure.

What feels truly good is knowing you are doing your best – some days you will have your shit together and other days you won’t – it IS NOT creating balance.

It is simply life.

If you aim to live ‘balanced’ on a tight rope chances are you’ll fall – headfirst and feel really down about it.

If you aim to just live life the best possible way for you – not anyone else – for you and accept that there will be ups and downs you can never fall, you can never fail.

It is simply life.

Stay Strong & Stretch,
Tel X

To Core OR Not To Core?

You’ve probably heard mixed responses on wether you should directly train your core or not right?

I mean with all these Insta Gurus it’s bloody hard to know what the actual fuck to do!!

Every second person recommending something different and for someone like yours truly who gets to train 70 badass women each week it makes me cringe some advice I see online from people who probably haven’t trained an actual client everrrrr *insert over dramatic crying face emoji

There are those saying all other lifts target this section so it isn’t needed and there is no point because doing core work won’t actually give you a flat stomach, you can’t build abs blah blah blah….

SO lets clear it up shall we?


You should 110% train core.

NOW lets get it straight what your core is before I tell you why because it is a word that gets thrown around a little to loosely… that’s what she said (sorry couldn’t help myself)

Your core refers to your entire midsection – front, back AND sides – NOT just your abs (rectus abdominis) your abs make up only a part of your core.

Right’o Tell I didn’t come here for a anatomy lesson…

Your core muscles act as stabilisers – they keep your body safe during day-to-day movements such as bending over, picking things up and even getting out of bed. They also help increase full potential strength on main lifts (squat, bench, deadlift)

If you have a weak core you’ll experience back pain (a SUPER common issue!), shitty posture (especially while sitting or in that case slouching) AND you wont experience true potential strength on your main lifts not to mention your form on these lifts probably wont be so crash hot either….


Sure – if you have fab body awareness you’ll more then likely train a parts of your core by lifting weights no doubt about it BUT how much control do you really have and how much focus are you putting on the correct muscles?

This is why training your core directly is important – body awareness and muscle activation – just like doing a heap of body weight, bad form squats won’t give you an ass – doing a heap of ab exercises whilst not focusing OR not doing it correctly won’t increase core strength.

By adding a small 5-10minute routine 2-3 times a week you will dramatically change the way you move, improve posture (especially with a sitting job) increase strength and WILL define your midsection – I truly believe core work gets giving a bad name because people throw a few sit ups in a set and call it ‘core’ my girls and I very, very rarely do sit ups – so what do we do?


PLANKS AND STATIC HOLDS: I great place to start is static hold exercises like planks and hollow holds because you aren’t moving you have a chance to really squeeze (am I mean squeeze) the muscles you are trying to target. They should burn and and shake – get to know what this feels like so you know what to look out for when progressing….

ROLL UPS/TEASERS: Once you nail static hold exercise begin to add moving exercises that create body awareness and core control such as roll ups which will teach you to move your body all whilst keeping activated – you learn to control your body rather then getting momentum from other muscles like your arms and legs.

LEG EXTENSIONS: Now your body control is down pat lets focus on keeping your core tight whilst moving your legs away from the body – think leg raises, flutter kicks and scissors – all exercise commonly done – but commonly done incorrectly – as your legs extend to straight your lower back should NOT lift away from the ground – once this happens you’ve lost control so either a) complete the exercise with knees bent at 90 degrees or b) decrease range of movement – don’t take your legs raise all the way down to the floor it may only be a slight movement as long as you stay in engaged thats all that matters.

WEIGHTED/RESISTANCE: If you are nailing all of the above add a dumbbell, bands, kettle bell or weight plate to the exercise to advance it but be sure you never loose control and remember to focus on what you are doing, feel the muscles working.

VARIETY: Don’t complete the same exercises each week – change reps, angles and weights – there is so many deep muscles throughout your core by doing the same movements you will not target all of them, won’t progress and will get bored very quickly. Adding in a variety will hit the different areas and will teach the body how to keep tension throughout out each one of them.

Soon enough by adding in the above and doing it correctly I guarantee you’ll notice a HUGE difference in strength, definition and injury prevention/rehab.


Stay Strong & Stretch,
Tel X