Week 19

I feel like my body went through a lot of changes this week…

Monday we had our halfway (OMG) scan – it was SO awesome to see little Prince again, we have been feeling him kick but to see his little face was the best!

Last scan was at 13 weeks – he was a lot bigger this time!! Everything is measuring ahead – especially his belly which measuring in the 98.4 percentile on the chart – I knew he was stealing all my food hence why I’m hungry what feels like all the time!

Everything else in the scan went great which is awesome!! My next scan is at 27 weeks can’t wait!!!

I’m finding my nose isn’t as blocked this week while I’m sleeping and although I’m still dreaming they don’t seem to be as weird dreams like the last two week – thank god!

Body wise is feeling the most difference this week – I had been feeling these pains while working and thought I might had strained a muscle, I told the Ob last week and she didn’t seem to concerned so neither was I… I found it to only be when I was working – once I got home and sat down the pain went away. When I went for a walk on Monday I had this extreme sharp pain through my left lower side (I guess under where my bump is) I continued walking and it kind of went away then came back on the right side… I was intense – by the end of the walk I felt like I was walking so slow and hunched over like a really bad stabbing cramps.

Round Ligament Pain – after a quick google search it seems to be what I’m experiencing – I only get it when walking and at work tho (assuming because I walk around a lot) I don’t get it while at pilates or lifting weights…. If you don’t know what RLP is it is a ligament that attaches from your womb to your groin and as the belly get bigger is can strain until I guess it stretches with you… I really hurts! But it doesn’t last too long and I find once I sit down it goes away pretty quick – I’ve only walked once this week because I’m scared it’ll happen again!

Training is the same as the other weeks with strength, pilates and swimming – (although I haven’t swum yet this week its Thursday which is a rest day so planning on it tomorrow)

Lying on my back also doesn’t feel that great this week either – I know from 20 weeks you should start laying on your side due to a main blood vessel that can get compressed so sleeping has been tough as a back sleeper, my shoulders are quite sore from sleeping on my sides I also notice it while demo-ing at work or just laying on my back for too long its uncomfortable….

Tired-ness has come back next level this week – I STILL haven’t has my iron infusion (its booked for next hospital visit in a couple weeks thank goodness) and I’ve only eaten steak once this week rather then nearly every second day like the weeks before so assuming Little Prince is sucking me dry….

My belly towards the end of this week is noticeably a lot bigger of a night time and a lot more people seem to be noticing – which is nice, it’s almost past the awkward in-between stage where I might be pregnant but I also may just be fat lol

Lastly I sneezed and nearly wet myself – like legit some wee defs came out – although me and Matt thought it was hilarious I’m focusing more on my pelvic floor and have also booking in with a pregnancy and pelvic floor physio so I’ll update you on how that goes next week…

With all these changes I’m convinced Little Prince is having a big grow week!

Can’t wait for week 20 and what it has to bring! (also can’t believe I’m already there!)

Oh the nursery has plaster – its not finished but it’s a step closer whoooo!!!

Week 17 & 18

These two weeks have been super similar & have just gone so bloody quick so I’m combining them!!

The main stand out over these last two week have been my dreams – they have been SO bizarre, really strange sometimes scary and very vivid…  Matt said this week I’ve laughed in my sleep and gasped myself awake – both of which I don’t remember.

My nose is also SO blocked of a night-time – during the day it’s completely fine! I asked the Dr and she said its because of more blood circulating around the body and there being more blood vessels in the nose – I’ve woken up with my mouth completely dry from obviously breathing through my nose all night!!

Little Prince is also kicking – often, it wasn’t the ‘flutters’ like people described or I read about it was more tapping maybe you could call it bubbling but I would say it was distinct tapping – I felt it in week 16 but wasn’t sure if it was bubs or not – but over these last two weeks it’s been a lot more regular and distinct…

Training wise I’ve been consistent for the last three weeks:
x2 Strength
x1 Pilates (plus taking 2-3 sessions demo-ing most the session)
x1 Swimming laps
and walking!

Feeling good!!

I had three appointments in week 18 – just a general local GP check up to get my referral for my 20 week scan (yay!), the second two were at the hospital one with the Ob and one with the Physician – I didn’t really know who was for what but later was told (by Matt lol) that the Ob was all about bubs and the physician was all about me – going into high risk now because of my UC they are keeping a close eye on me to make sure I stay in remission and all so far is looking good!! (double yay!!)

The Dr and the Ob checked Little Princes heart rate with the Doppler – it was perfect and so nice to hear – both times Little Prince kicked the Doppler off my belly and both dr’s commented on how active he is – fingers crossed that settles once he is earth side lol

Thus far I’ve put on 4kg – my boobs have gotta be weighing in at 2kgs a pop – they feel and look huge!! The Dr said I’ll probably be gaining .500g per week, which is such a strange thing to think of – still getting my head around that fact!!!

My body although feeling different, it’s feeling good! My belly is defs getting bigger – again there is such a big difference from my morning stomach to my bed bed tummy! Can’t believe I’m so close to half way already and the babys rooms doesn’t even have walls hahhahaohshithahahah

Week 16

I don’t know if it is because Matts home again or me but this week I’ve felt great!

I haven’t been training all that much because I just have zero energy and feel shit most the time – this week was different, finally back into training because it was what my body wanted and because it felt good to do so!

Sunday- Lower Strength
Monday- Walked
Tuesday- Swam (first time probably since my paul saddler days aka 20 years ago lol)
Wednesday – Pilates
Thursday – Rest day (helped Matts sister move house all day)
Friday – Upper Strength
Saturday – Walk

That’s how my week panned out, I must admit after Pilates on Wednesday I was knackered – I felt really tried – maybe I should be easing myself into it but I’m no good at the ‘easing’ process – all or nothing kinda gal…

I’m still napping most days for an hour or so and still haven’t heard about my iron infusion but I have a hospital appointment coming up so will check in with them..

Diet wise I’m eating a lot more regularly then I use to, pre-pregnancy fasting is something I would do most days and then not really snack where as I’m finding I need to eat every few hours to relieve any sickness that starts to come on. Is it heathly? I’d say yes mostly (I say this as I just finished a malteaser bunny) but I’m not being strict on my diet – again not that kinda gal…

We also bought a pram this week which was super exciting! We haven’t bought anything – going into the baby shops for the first time was overwhelming as hell and there are SO many different brand of everything it was ridic but we knew we were looking at prams so stuck to that section for now – we went with the easiest, lightest, new parent proof one we could find – SUCCESS!!

I also think I felt little prince kick, it’s happened a few times but I have NO idea if that’s what I’m feeling or not, it’s like tiny, TINY little thumps in my tummy – strange bloody feeling that’s for sure!

What an overly positive week – here is to hoping there is more like this!

DISCLAIMER: This is my first week like this – don’t think I’ve been training everyday and eating like a health freak the last 16 weeks because that’s refs not true – weeks 6-7 to week 14-15 were rough!

Stay Strong & Stretch,
Tel

Week 15

IT’S A BOY – The genetic testing came back all clear at week 10 and we found out Little Prince is in fact a boy!! Another huge hurdle!

My nausea has FINALLY stopped, thankkk god for that!!!!!

It was hit and miss during week 14 some days were good and some days were terrible but no sickness during week 15!

But it’s never really smooth sailing is it??

We had out first hospital meeting at week 13 – everything went really well, we are having the baby at Sunshine – this is where all my specialist Dr’s are for my UC so they can all communicate with each other. They have been great thus far too!

After the hospital appointment at week 14 I got a call from the hospital on the Monday (When I was 15 weeks) saying they are transferring me from orange unit (which is basically like a general unit) to a ‘High Risk’ unit – hearing this scared me. Having UC is what caused my last miscarriage and is the reason why I’m now a high risk pregnancy – its just scary to hear but least I’m getting monitored the way I should, they said that if ANY of my UC symptoms come back I need to go in ASAP as it can cause preterm birth. Matt was in South America at this time (on our last big holiday before we started trying for a baby!) and I was home alone absorbing the information – I don’t want to get sick, I just want the baby to be healthy. I sobbed, half hormonal and half reality shock that UC will never leave me.

On the Wednesday I had a meeting with my Gastroenterologist my second follow up since my colonoscopy, she was happy my symptoms, which seemed to be in remission but was also concerned about how bad my last colonoscopy was – it showed that I have Pan Colitis – there are different levels of UC – mine is through my whole colon, not just one section. There were also abnormal cells, similar to cancer cells in my colon – again scary to hear. BUT I seemed to be reacted well to the medication – she just wants to keep a close eye on me. She was also concerned with my iron count and insisted on an iron infusion – this made me happy – I’ve been tired, like really tired, like napping 3 times a day tired. So getting this infusion should help with that!

So a couple speed bumps this week – but my UC is still under control and besides being tried I’m feeling SO good. I’m just glad the dr’s are keeping a close eye on me, I really feel like I’m under the best care possible….

Stay Strong & Stretch,
Tel X

The First Trimester

Holly shit we are having a baby!

Once the initial shock settled, the nerves kick in.

I was scared, I couldn’t go through what we went through last time – as the 7 week mark came closer and closer the more nervous I got.

Last time the first ultrasound is where it all went wrong.

This time we opted for a local GP that specialises in pregnancy and also opted for an ultrasound clinic locally – Siles in BM – I couldn’t recommend Ken ANY more – he is amazing and super informative.

Even just doing these two simple things make the process seem a lot more professional and real compared to last time.

Our first ultrasound – I felt SO nervous – what if there was no heartbeat again?

Lying on the bed Ken made me feel calm and Matt was being so strong even tho I know he was just as scared as me.

And there it was a tiny little blob that is our little Prince AND a heartbeat to match.

Tears of joy came streaming down my face and instant relief.

From this point morning sickness increased A LOT – I never experienced it last time.

And from the sounds of it everyone experiences different symptoms but mine went as follows….

There was nothing bloody morning about it. It was ALL DAY sickness.

I never really vomited, I would just dry reach which I think is worse, I would just rather vomit and get on with my day.

The best way to describe this was like an ALL day hangover – I perked up usually by 3pm just in time to put on a brave face and head to work. The first trimester is hard – not many people know and its when you’re probably struggling the most physically and mentally yet no one has a clue!

Along with the sickness my boobs grew A LOT and were very sore and I was also super tired, napping daily and hardly training at all! Not even walking which for me is a big deal – I felt like a slob – doing nothing all day but laying down on the couch, it’s something I wasn’t use to.

I grew sick of this feeling and at 9 weeks I got acupuncture which is suppose to help with the sickness….

It helped, it helped TOO much – so much so that I felt like all my signs that I was pregnant were gone, I thought we had lost the baby. I know this is why I got the acupuncture in the first place but I didn’t realise it as going to make me feel like this!

I booked in to see my Dr that ordered me to have a blood test and an ultrasound.

It was a nerve-racking week waiting for both of these things – the ultrasound went great.

Another sigh of relief, I now know that this feeling of nervousness does not leave – when you don’t know what’s happening inside you and you just want everything to be okay it is really hard to relax, especially when things didn’t turn out as planned the first time around.

This was basically my life for up until 14 weeks – 2 months on ongoing fatigue, nerves, soreness, weird pains, nausea and a f*ck heap of googling to figure out if it was all normal.

Stay Strong & Stretch,
Tel X

We’re having a baby– how we got here – our Rainbow Baby.

July 21st2018 – Matt and I lost something so special to us, our sweet little Blueberry Prince.

The day we went in for our first ultra sound of our first baby we left disappointed and confused only hours later I started bleeding a lot. The physical and emotional journey after that was a tough one. One you don’t really know how to deal with or act – like with everything in life you just take each day as it comes.

Thinking back to that day still brings tears to my eyes, I hate that we had to go through that, I hate that so many women have to go through that physically and I hate that so many couples have to go through that emotionally.

I now know that it was because of my Ulcerative Colitis that we lost our baby.

A hard pill to swallow, something I let get out of control eventually took its toll on my body, our bodies are smart they know when you are able to carry a baby and when you aren’t – I wasn’t able to at this point of time and it makes complete sense, if I’m loosing weight, going to the toilet 15-20 times a day, bloody bowel movements – I’m extremely sick, there is no way a baby will be getting the nutrients it needs – hell I wasn’t getting the nutrients I need.

After the miscarriage I was forced to look after my health.

I started medication, had much more closer monitoring by specialist dr’s, had a colonoscopy to see the extent of damage done to my bowels, found a good local GP and a naturopath – I HIGHLY recommend this – throughout my UC and my first pregnancy journey I had crappy bulk billing dr’s – don’t do this, research dr’s and if you’re not happy with them CHANGE!

By December I was feeling SO good – my weight was back to normal (52kg pre hospital – Dec 58kg feeling good), no blood in stools, x1 bowel movement a day, training pilates, weights, boxing, walking and even RUNNING!!

I was in such a better place physically and mentally; when I look back I couldn’t believe how long I dealt with being sick for. I don’t know how I functioned at all – its funny how we just do tho!

My period was off after getting out of hospital in October– my body had been through a lot and it made sense but knowing we were wanting to try for a baby soon it was just another set back. I tried not to worry about it too much because besides that I was healthy, which I hadn’t felt in a long time!

The ‘Plan’ was to go on a holiday in April (South America) as our last big trip before we start trying for a baby, also by this time our private health insurance will cover all the maternity needs as we were wanting to go private for the birth (this was to kick in November) – there is a 12 month waiting period ladies if you didn’t know that and want to go private add it on NOW!

The reality: Australia day weekend I went out and had a big day – day drinking that led to night drinking that led to a pretty decent hangover the next day! My period was late, by over a week and I put it down to still being out of sync because it had been! Pregnancy didn’t even cross my mind AT ALL – I even felt like I had cramping pains that my period was coming…

It just never did… So I went out Sunday and on Tuesday I decided to do a test just to eliminate that possibility – I didn’t even tell Matt I was doing it because I was sure it was going to be negative!

To my surprise it was NOT negative – it was extremely positive.

Shocked, excited and confused – I waited for Matt to get off the phone as he had back to back sales calls – he came out of his office extremely chuffed after closing all the calls and I was just waiting for him in the kitchen figuring out how am I going to blab this out!

No words came out I just showed him the test – just as shocked as me we laughed, cried and hugged – although not planned for this moment – when the body is ready the body is ready.

Life has funny ways – I was 5 weeks pregnant.

Stay Strong & Stretch,
Tel X

5 Reasons Why You ALWAYS Fail.  

As winter begins (hopefully) to start to fade away we begin to become a little more inspired and motivated – a completely natural thing I see each year within the fitness industry.

As you get out of your winter rut and start planning and goal setting I see common trends happen every single year that I want to highlight to stop you from making these same mistakes and to stop self-sabotaging your results!

When you sit down and plan your little heart out about all the amazing things you are going to achieve this spring and summer, it’s only naturally to feel a sense of excitement and motivation – you are READY!!!

Wether it be get to X amount of training sessions OR loose X amount of weight OR run X amount of km’s – whatever it is you want to achieve in the beginning there is no stopping you.

You know exactly what you want and when you want it by.

The problem is women tend to make these 5 mistakes whilst on their journey, I’ve listed them below in hopes that you can recognise and learn from them to help you achieve great things this summer….

HERE ARE 5 COMMON MISTAKES I SEE THAT SET WOMEN BACK FROM REACHING THEIR GOALS:

1) YOU ARE NOT PREPARED – I mean you are organised but that’s a totally different ball game – writing a list is different to getting the things on the list done.  Being organised means writing a shopping list and all your meals for the week, being prepared means going out to the shops and buying the things on this list, then coming home and preparing as much as you can for the week ahead. Lists are easy – setting out and hitting everything on the list is hard and what really matters at the end of the day. The more prepared you are the less room you have to fail. If you have your food ready to grab first thing in the morning that will stop you from buying shit for lunch.

2) FAIL TO CELEBRATE THE SMALL WINS – You ate amazing, hit all your training session and you feel so bloody good BUT the scales say you only lost .500g this week – I know I’ve been here and it is disheartening, it hurts – all that effort and a measly 500g is all that comes off – this isn’t the way you should be thinking. If your goal is to loose weight this is a win, if you keep this up for 12 weeks that is 6kgs down!  Plus think about how good you are feeling and all the other amazing efforts you did this week that you wouldn’t of usually of done. Learn to celebrate these wins because they are what will get you to the finish line!

3) BECOME OVERWHELMED – One week goes by and you realise still how far you have to go – it gets overwhelming and seems impossible so you just want to quit. Rather then looking at things day by day you look at the big picture and that big picture can sometimes seems impossible. It isn’t. You just have to look at it a little different, rather then saying okay I have to hit 40 training sessions in 12 weeks break it down smaller, into a week by week basis. If you hit these small targets of 4 sessions a week it will get you to the big outcome. 4 sessions doesn’t seem as daunting as 40! The same goes for weight loss – wanting to loose 10kgs in 12 weeks rather then looking at the bigger numbers of 10kg and 12 weeks break it down to smaller wins – .850g per week is all you have to aim for.
Lay brick by brick and eventually you will have a wall.

4) WHO YOU HANG WITH MATTERS – Sadly not everyone wants to see you win. More times then not they are actually ready and expecting you to fail and will do anything in their power to have that happen, maybe not directly, it might be a comment here or there or a “C’mon one chocolate won’t hurt” OR “Just miss the gym this once.” OR “Why are you even doing this?” OR “You’re addicted to fitness” OR “Don’t loose anymore weight” – trust me I could go on and on forever and you girls cop it from so-called ‘friends’. You don’t want or need negative people trying to sabotage you- choose whom you hang out with wisely because they influence you more then you know.

5) IT WILL BE HARD – Most goals you set out to do are not going to be easy. Some days you will crush it and the next you will not want to get out of bed to train and will want to eat everything in sight. If reaching goals were easy we wouldn’t have an obesity epidemic on our hands. When things get hard it is okay, step back take a breath and remember WHY you started. If you have a hard day and you miss training or eat terribly – it is okay, it is human! Know from the beginning that this will happen, one bad day wont ruin your results just as one good day one get you to the end results either.

If there is anything you can take out of all of this is to not over complicate things.

Be realistic, prepared and keep it simple, do the same daily good habits over and over – this will lead to the end goal.

You don’t need fancy supplements, magic potions, crazy workouts, ridiculous diets or heath food fads – do the simply shit consistently and I guarantee you will get there!

I believe in you.

Stay Strong & Stretch,
Tel X

When darkness hits…

Someone messaged me the other day and said “How do you stay so positive and happy all the time”

At first sure it’s a complement, then I felt sad that I portray a life of constant happiness, my life isn’t perfect – its pretty f*cking great but negative sh*t gets thrown my way (more common then not at the moment) that leaves me in a dark, depressive place.

My role as a coach is to encourage, lead and inspire people but it is never to be fake with people – I’ll never pretend that I’m a cardio loving, kale eating, always happy AF person because I’m simply not!

I get grumpy, I get sad, I get depressed – I feel all emotions everyone else feels –  the only difference is I’m in tune with what I’m feeling and accept it, know it is only for brief period of time and try to learn something from it – the good old quote “it’s a bad day, not a bad life” hits it perfectly.

It’s been a strange few years, although each year I’m growing and learning more and more about myself, who I truly am and what I was destined for, I’m also hitting hard resistance and set backs that try and pull me into dark places.

I think everyone faces these resistances, these depressive states, tho we may not talk about them as openly as I talk about mine, this is why I write, as someone who is/was a chronic “bottler” who hates talking about emotions and feelings – writing them gives me a sense of freedom, to lead people to know dark places exist for everyone and it is okay to feel and explore them but know you are never isolated and stuck in them, that the light at the end is always within reach.

So what do I do when resistance and dark thoughts hit?

1) Allow the darkness to wave over you but do not allow it to overwhelm you. Realise that every single person experiences the darkness, to feel emotions (although not portrayed on social media) such as sadness; depression and isolation are extremely normal. They are emotions, just like being happy – it is completely okay to feel them, to be down. What you do need to realise tho is these states don’t have to last forever – sure take your time to process the situation that has happened but then ensure you learn a positive from it. There is ALWAYS a positive to a negative – that is something I’m a firm believer of.  If you don’t take the time to process situations properly and continue to push them down like nothing has happened they will only keep coming back up – so it’s best to take the time to get in tune with your body.

2) Write down 3 things you’re grateful for – your list of negatives tend to stack up and the pile looks so big that you can hardly focus on anything else but it is important to redirect that focus – there are beautiful things happening around you – wether it is a loving partner, family, friends, roof over your head, animals just take the time to appreciate the small things you have.

3) Talk –  not always as easy as it seems, but having just that one person you can open up to will make the world of difference, in the beginning it may be scary but afterwards you’ll feel a huge weight lifted off your shoulders – this may always be a different person depending on the topic. If you know someone has had a similar experience you may want to open up to them because they will understand what you’re going through a little better.

4) Walk, everyday – wether it be 20 minutes or an hour – even if you don’t want to – I use to walk listening to music or podcast but I’d get so overwhelmed with noise that it all just became white noise – I started listening to nothing. I’d allow thoughts to come to my mind; I’d process them, as need be then tune into nature, the birds, and the wind – feeling the sun and cool breeze on your face instantly lifts your mood.

5) Meditate – seems like a hippy thing to do, I felt the same way – but when feeling overwhelmed and my mind keeps racing a guided meditation helps me re centre and helps me dissolve away any excess tension I may be holding. I use the app ‘Calm’.

Stay Strong & Stretch,
Tel X

Why CLEAN Treats Make You GAIN Weight….

WHAT?!?! BUT IT’S CLEAN!?!

Surely the heading is some sort of typo….

Nope, sorry ladies!!

After helping 100’s of women with their diets it comes up too often.

“Tel, I’m eating really well but my body just isn’t changing”

This usually mean they are doing one of two things:

Either a) the client isn’t eating enough in general and basically starving themselves rather then fuelling the body at the correct times with the correct foods

OR

b) they ARE eating really well but their thought to be ‘healthy’ snacks are holding them back.

The ‘good’ ‘clean’ snack foods aren’t always that great if you want to drop a bit of weight, lean out or tone up.

OMG TEL AM I EATING THE RIGHT SNACK FOODS?!?!?

Deep breath girl read on…..

I see a lot of women who nail their main meals, a great combination of greens, fats, proteins and carbs! #NAILEDIT

And like with all women we have a cheeky little soft spot for sweets and delish goodies – WHICH IS TOTALLY FINE AND NORMAL. BUT the problem arises when we try to fill a sugar-craving void for a ‘healthier’ ‘cleaner’ version of the snack.

Which sometimes we forget are just as, if not MORE calorie dense then your original options.

Let’s take nuts for an example a SUPER common ‘healthy’ snack – and this is true they are indeed healthy but did you know x10 almonds is considered as snack?? (70 calories about the same as chocolate freddo)

WHO STOPS AT 10 ALMONDS?!?!?!?

Not many people we usually go for a handful, which is nearly 200 calories! (nearly 3 freddos –  I know which one I’d rather)

Obviously yes the nuts do have more nutritional value, vitamins etc then a freddo – BUT if your goal is to drop weight you need to be super mindful the quantities of these healthy snack foods you are eating.

Same goes when we are making our own treats such as raw slices, banana muffins, protein balls – these are ALL very calories dense and you will not find many recipes where the calories are under 100 per serve. (which is scary because I know I never eat just one!) By eating these you make it VERY hard for yourself to loose weight.

SO WHAT SHOULD I BE SNACKING ON?

You want food that has more bang for it’s buck, one protein ball would never fill me – maybe 3 would (BOOM there is 450 calories right there) – so you want foods that are low in calories but high in volume. You’ll more then likely be having x2 snacks per day and you want them to be aiming for around 100 calories per snack time.

MY GO TO SNACKS ARE:

-Carrot sticks (41 calories in a carrot)
-Cobs Pop corn single serve packets (63 calories per packet)
-Rice Cakes salt and vinegar are delish (28 calories per rice cake)
-Can of Tuna in Spring Water (81 calories per tan)
-Small banana (90 calories)

AND if I’m feeling like I want a freddo or chocolate I’LL HAVE IT! (at 80-120 calories)

The key is just not to over complicate your diet – you DON’T need fancy snacks, with ingredients that cost an arm and a leg – keep it simple because it’s maintainable AND IT WORKS!!

Just because something is labelled as ‘CLEAN’ ‘RAW’ ‘NO FAT’ ‘NO SUGAR’ ‘HIGH PROTEIN’ doesn’t mean it is miracle product you can eat endless amounts of.

So if you find you’re eating really well and still not getting the results you want just have a closer look at your snack foods – are you over consuming calories dense foods that are holding you back??

If so no biggie sub if for something in my list from above and watch your results start to happen!

Remember this is what I have found has worked for me and my clients – if you have ANY food intolerances, special needs contact a nutritionist.

Stay Strong & Stretch,
Tel X

If you died tomorrow…

Life is weird.

Our thoughts are weird.

Humans are weird.

We are put onto this planet, go to school, get a job, work – a whole heap of shit happens between – then we die.

As a summary this so bizarre.

And in the hindsight it is such a short amount of time.

In this short amount of time how much emphasis do you put on irrelevant things?

Like wether you have the latest fashion, how much you weigh, what people thing of you, stressing about things out of your control or stressing about made up scenarios in your head?

And in this short amount of time how much emphases do you put on ‘I wish’ rather then being grateful for the things you have?

Saying, “I wish I looked like that” rather then being grateful for being alive at all.
Or
“I wish I had more money” when you could be appreciating the roof over your head.

I’m guilty of this, I think we all are – it is so easy to get caught up in it all – the trends, the hype, the highlight reels, the guilt, the “I wish” way of thinking or stressing.

In this short amount of time we have on this big ‘ol Earth shouldn’t we spend it striving to make a real positive impact rather then keeping up with the Jones?

We have the power to follow our passions, be our true self – yet it is so easy to settle for what we think we deserve in life rather then going out and getting what we actually deserve because the fear of failing and the fear of what people may think hold us back.

These two fears are made up scenarios in our mind.

Think of it this way, if you were to die tomorrow would you be completely content with what you have achieved?

And with that in mind remember this is your life. If you answered no to the above you are the only person who can change that, what is holding you back??

Reality? Or your false beliefs?

Now imagine a life where you didn’t stress about what people thought of you, you were just your true self and had absolutely no fear of failing – what would happen?

It’s scary right – you know they would judge you – but the funny thing is they wouldn’t.

We get so anxious all the time about what people will think, how they will react and what they will do that we supress out own feelings and emotions as it just seems easier and we gain acceptance.

We literally change who we to impress others.

Yet I feel like if you have to supress and hide your true self because you are afraid of what people will think you are hanging out with the wrong people.

Think about the way you act in front of your Mum – that’s the real you.

Would it be so bad if that’s what the world saw?

Hell no because we are all the f*cking same, we all struggle, we all experience bad, we all do weird shit, we all cry, we all get hurt and we all go through the rat race.

Life isn’t perfect and we don’t need to make it out to be – act human, be yourself, stop and address the made up thoughts in your head that are holding you back, appreciate what you have and always strive for what you truly deserve because life is short and you don’t want to leave with any regrets.

What can you change right now to impact your life in a positive way?

Stay Strong & Stretch,
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